Witchy, Single, Boundaries Up & Mentally Unbothered A Love Letter to Doing It Differently

SOULCRAVT  ✦  BROOKE HAGUE  ✦  THECRAVT.COM

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By Brooke Hague  |  Soulcravt  |  thecravt.com  |  Colorado

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Let me paint you a picture.

It's a Tuesday night in Colorado. The mountains are doing their whole majestic thing outside the window. There's a candle burning, something with cedarwood and intention. My black cat Karma — yes, her name is literally Karma, yes I named her that on purpose, no I have no regrets — is staring at the wall like she knows something I don't. Saint and Loki, my two dogs, are somewhere between chaos and cuddling, which is their permanent emotional state.

My kids are 19 and 23. They are alive, fed, and fully launched into the world. The nest is empty. The house is quiet. And I — Brooke Hague, owner of Soulcravt, woman stepping boldly into her 40s, certified lover of her own company — am sitting in the most peaceful chaos I have ever called a life.

No boyfriend. No apologies. Full boundaries. A cat named Karma who may or may not be my familiar. Two dogs named Saint and Loki who are definitely not. Thriving. 🖤🐾🐈‍⬛

And if that sounds like too much to you — baby, you might be exactly who needs to read this.

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First, Let's Talk About Being Single Like It's Not a Diagnosis

Somewhere along the way, society decided that being single past a certain age was either tragic or suspicious. Like you either couldn't get someone, or you ate them.

Neither is true for most of us.

Some of us are single because we finally got tired of shrinking. Tired of explaining ourselves. Tired of doing the emotional labor of three people while someone else took up space on the couch and in our nervous system simultaneously.

Being single — intentionally, unapologetically single — is one of the most radical acts of self-respect a person can choose.

It means you stopped settling for almost. It means you know what your energy is worth. It means you'd rather light your own candle than sit in someone else's darkness pretending it's romantic.

Here in Colorado, we call that altitude clarity. The higher you go, the clearer things get. 🏔️

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The Empty Nest Nobody Warned You Would Feel Like Freedom

Everyone warns you about the empty nest like it's a funeral.

They tell you you'll cry. You'll feel lost. You'll wander the house in a fog wondering what your purpose is now that the little humans you built your whole life around have gone and grown up on you.

And sure — maybe there were a few moments. Maybe I stood in a very quiet kitchen once or twice and felt the weight of a chapter closing.

Then I heard my own thoughts for the first time in two decades. I ate food I actually wanted. I kept the house exactly the way I liked it. I made decisions for myself — just myself — without calculating the ripple effect on everyone else first.

Stepping into my 40s with an empty nest isn't the ending they made it sound like. It's the beginning I didn't know I'd been waiting for my whole life.

The kids are good. They are thriving. And so — finally, fully, unapologetically — am I. 🖤

Karma is still staring at that wall. Saint is asleep in the exact spot I want to sit. Loki is doing something suspicious in the other room. All is well.

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Boundaries Aren't Mean. They're Magic.

Can we normalize this please?

A boundary is not an attack. It is not a punishment. It is not you being "difficult" or "a lot" or whatever word someone used when they were upset that you stopped being convenient for them.

A boundary is a spiritual contract with yourself that says: this is where I end and where you begin, and I will honor that line even when it's uncomfortable.

The witchy truth? Your energy field is literal. What you allow in your space — people, conversations, dynamics, relationships — becomes part of your frequency. And your frequency determines everything you're calling in.

So that person who drains you every single time you talk to them? That's not just emotionally exhausting. That's energetically expensive. And honey, you are on a budget.

Boundaries are how you protect your magic. Full stop. 🔮

Setting them feels scary the first time. The second time. Maybe the seventeenth time. But eventually — and I promise you this from experience — it starts to feel like the most natural thing in the world. Because it IS natural. It is your nervous system finally getting to exhale.

The people who are meant for your life will respect your limits. The ones who don't? They just showed you exactly where they belong — outside the gate. 🚪

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Mental Health Is Part of the Practice. Not Separate From It.

Here's where the witchy meets the real.

You can pull cards every morning. You can sage your house until your neighbors think something's on fire. You can meditate, journal, and align your chakras before breakfast.

And you still might need therapy. And that is not a contradiction.

Mental health isn't the absence of spiritual practice — it's the foundation of it. You cannot build a high-vibration life on an unexamined mind. The subconscious patterns running the show in the background don't care how many crystals you own.

True healing lives at the intersection of the mystical and the practical. The energy work AND the inner work. The ritual AND the therapy. That's the medicine. That's the Soulcravt way. ✨

Mental health is not your weakness. It is your most important relationship. The one with yourself. And just like any relationship worth having — it requires honesty, consistency, and the occasional uncomfortable conversation.

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Discipline Is the Least Sexy Word That Will Change Your Life

Nobody puts "I showed up for myself even when I didn't feel like it" on a vision board. But maybe they should.

Because here's the thing about transformation that the highlight reels don't show you — it's not the breakthrough moments that build the life. It's the Tuesday mornings when nothing feels magical and you still do the thing. You still move your body. You still protect your peace. You still choose yourself when every old pattern is screaming at you to go back to what's familiar.

Discipline is not punishment. It is not rigidity. It is not the opposite of flow.

Discipline, in the Soulcravt world, is devotion. It's saying: I love myself enough to keep showing up for myself even when it's hard. Even when it's boring. Even when nobody's clapping.

That is the work. And it is sacred. 🙏

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Relationships — The Ones Worth Having

Here's my hot take, and I'm standing behind it:

The most important relationship of your life is not romantic.

It's the one you have with your own mind. Your own body. Your own soul. Because every single relationship you have — romantic, friendship, family, professional — will reflect back exactly where you are with yourself.

Healed people attract different. Not perfect. Just different.

When you've done the inner work — when you've held your own boundaries, faced your own patterns, learned to love your own company — you stop accepting bare minimum because you're no longer running on a scarcity mindset. You know what it feels like to be treated well because you treat yourself well first.

Two whole people choosing each other. Not two half people needing each other to survive. That's the frequency. That's what we build at Soulcravt. 💫

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The 40s Nobody Told Me About

Nobody told me that 40 would feel like finally.

Like finally knowing who I am without needing anyone to confirm it. Finally being done performing versions of myself for people who were never really paying attention anyway. Finally understanding that the woman I was trying so hard to become in my 20s and 30s was here the whole time — just buried under other people's expectations and a lot of survival mode.

Forty in Colorado. Empty nest. Black cat named Karma. Two dogs named Saint and Loki who have zero concept of personal space. Building Soulcravt from the ground up. Doing the inner work. This is not what I thought my life would look like. It's better. 🖤

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Here's Where I Land

Being witchy and single and boundaried and mentally deep in the work in Colorado, stepping into my 40s with an empty nest, a black cat who judges me lovingly, and two dogs who have never once respected a boundary in their lives — is not a consolation prize.

It is the whole prize.

It is a woman who knows herself. Who has done the work — and keeps doing it. Who has stopped waiting for external circumstances to make her feel whole because she found out the hard way that whole was an inside job all along.

You don't have to have it all figured out. I know I don't. Karma is still staring at that wall and I still don't know what she sees. Saint is on the couch he's not supposed to be on. Loki is definitely guilty of something.

But if you're here — somewhere between your crystals and your therapy notes and your very strong opinions about who gets access to your energy — Welcome. You're in the right place. 🖤🐈‍⬛🐾

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✦  About Brooke  ✦

Brooke Hague is the founder of Soulcravt, a Colorado-based spiritual coaching and embodiment practice blending NLP, intuitive coaching, yoga, and real-talk transformation. She works with women ready to stop shrinking and start living — fully, loudly, and on their own terms.

Book a session or explore her offerings at thecravt.com 🖤